My mother always said, “don’t talk about sex, religion or politics with friends or family.” As an adult, I understand why. People have very strong feelings about all three and you can lose friends over these subjects that most people are unmoving in. However, I'm breaking that rule for educational purposes! ❤️

It’s hard to even capture all the possibilities of your sex life in once sentence. Today there are so many roads people might take and yet they all fall under one word: Sex. 

I don’t think I could ever describe sex to someone who hasn’t had it yet (not meaning the first time but the kind of sex your body starts to crave). I remember a girl trying to explain it to me once in high school and she gave up (hahahahaha) because there really isn’t a super accurate metaphor. 

However, sex is part of our lives, it’s part of well… the whole world being alive. Depending on where you are in your life, you might like to think about it in more simple or complex ways (something you do to strengthen your relationship or something you're doing to start a family). We all like to think about it differently.

Though it's important to remember that sex drive and orgasmic response CHANGE across women throughout their life but also throughout the month! Estrogen, progesterone, and testosterone all play a role in your sexual desire — also called libido — and sexual functioning. If you're experiencing a low sex drive, don't be too hard on yourself,  remember you'll change throughout your life. Though it is important to understand your body. 

So besides having a baby — why have sex? Obviously it feels great, it’s the “last step” or for some people the “first step” in a serious relationship (there I go again, not being able to put it in a box, sex might just be sex for you without any relationship attachments)… so many options. Well, I’ll give you more benefits, sex is really actually good for you! 

If you frequently have sex with someone (who you want to be with), I’m sure you’ve experienced some of the following psychological differences such as improved mood, improved self-image, stress relief, and happiness. 

I know I’ve seen it in myself sometimes. It happens because our brains release endorphins. Oxytocin is also released with nipple stimulation and other sexual activity and can result in a sense of calmness and contentedness. 

There are also physical benefits, like better immune function. But best of all, the more sexually active you are, the more you’ll boost your libido and not only increase your lubrication but also your want to get tangled in the sheets more often. 

Other benefits:

-Regulating your menstrual cycle (sexual activity with a partner at least once a week)

-Take the edge off of PMS symptoms (we’ve talked about how PMS isn’t something you have to live with, between S’moo and proper lifestyle choices you can avoid PMS regardless of your sex life).  

-Boost fertility through orgasms. 

-Looking and feeling younger, studies suggest if you have sex at least three times a week, you could take as much as a decade off your age!

The largest benefit of all is for your relationship (if you're in one), having sex can increase your emotional connection and commitment. Studies show that couples have a higher chance of staying together when they connect on this level.  This is from the chemical release from our bodies, creating a greater emotional intimacy. 

With that said, if something is physically or psychologically preventing you from an active sex life, you can still maintain a strong and healthy relationship. 

For anyone interested in increasing more than just their sex life with a partner consider:

  •  Increasing your time spent together - though right now during quarantine you're probably rolling your eyes at me.
  • Being emotionally available for your partner - this has to start with creating an environment that is safe, trusting one another with anything.
  • Create goals together - if you don't want to make it too serious yet, make a "fun list" of activities that will build shared memories and experiences while strengthening emotional intimacy (this could be as simple as a water balloon fight). 
Whether it's about sex, or everything in-between, remember that you're in control of your body and you're special and worthwhile. You don't ever need to do sexual actives to make someone be with you. 




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